A Heart (of a Sort) – Or is this pepper just acting? – Photo: L. Weikel
Academy Awards
I wrote back in February (here and here) about a few of the films we’d watched that were nominated for Best Picture in the Academy Awards. The last time I gave an opinion, I was still rooting for Dune. I was surprised to discover when I checked a few minutes ago that I never ended up writing about Coda. We really liked it, but even if I’d written about it, I probably would’ve still had Dune as my preferred front-runner.
Over this weekend, we tried to stuff in a couple more nominees, if only because it makes watching the Academy Awards more interesting. (Yes, I know, many people no longer even bother to watch them. But we do.)
Licorice Pizza and Belfast
The last two we managed to see before the Oscars were Licorice Pizza and Belfast. To put it succinctly, perhaps my taste is too pedestrian (harkening back to my reaction to The Power of the Dog), but Licorice Pizza was…odd. I tried to like it, but none of the characters spoke to me. I didn’t even actually like the characters, which is crucial, at least for me. And I don’t mean that I have to ‘like’ the characters in the sense that I would want to be their friend or family. I just like to find someone in a movie who intrigues me, makes me want to understand or protect them, or is even such a ‘bad guy’ that they capture my imagination.
For whatever reason, I just couldn’t make heads or tails out of the main characters of Licorice Pizza. In fact, I don’t even understand the title. The best I could guess is that the two flavors just don’t go together. (I won’t explain any further, since I don’t want to spoil it for you if you want to see it and still haven’t.)
I’m so glad we watched Belfast today, though. It gave me a much greater appreciation for the competition and I have to say, it really touched my heart. I know a few of you had recommended Belfast a while back, and now I understand why. When I wrote about wanting to see it (back in February) it was available on Amazon but it was $19.99 and you had to buy it. It’s now rentable on Amazon for $5.99. I guarantee, it is money well spent.
Bizarre Behavior
Finally, we did end up watching the Oscars tonight. We re-watched the utterly bizarre assault by Will Smith on Chris Rock several times. That whole interchange was so bizarre, we kept trying to discern if it was staged.
It was quite obvious that Chris Rock had no idea he was going to get clocked by Smith. And that’s understandable, since Will Smith did not have even the slightest look of disapproval on his face when he heard the joke. (Jada Pinkett Smith had a cloudy expression cross her face, but ?) And quite honestly? I had to think a minute before I even got the joke. Heck – GI Jane was from back in 1997! And when I got it, it didn’t even seem mean – dumb, maybe, but it was simply an allusion to her shaved head.
The Reactions
I’ve been watching the reactions of people online and on Twitter and I find it astonishing that so many people assume that Chris Rock ‘should have known’ that Jada Pinkett Smith has alopecia, a condition that involves hair loss, and that’s why she shaves her head.
Why on earth would Chris Rock be presumed to know that? Do people really think everyone follows every utterance of every so-called ‘famous’ person? She’s a stunning woman – and to me (I didn’t know she had alopecia until tonight either) her shaved head just seemed like a bold fashion statement that could only be carried off by someone both beautiful and confident.
I find it much more deeply disturbing that people are rallying around Smith for his utterly inexcusable and unprovoked assault on live tv, and then vulgar shouted threats at Rock when he returned to his seat. It was a joke. It probably went over the heads of half the people there because they weren’t even born when GI Jane was released. And anyone could see from the delivery that it wasn’t intended as a real cut to Pinkett Smith.
Worst of All
The worst reaction though, in my opinion, was Smith’s truly bizarre tearful ‘acceptance’ speech when he later won for Best Actor. Ew. He didn’t even have the grace to apologize to Chris Rock – which at least would’ve been a step in the right direction. Instead, he tried to justify his behavior as an act of love.
Sorry, but that’s an excuse used all too often in abusive situations. As are the tears. (Let’s remember – he just won for Best Actor, too!) And then capping it off with some baloney about thinking his supposed great talent as an actor makes him a vessel of LOVE?
Please.
The fact that he received a standing ovation after that garbage was appalling. What in the world are we modeling to our children? He is no better than TFG, who infamously said, “When you’re a star, they let you do it. You can do anything.”
A little self-restraint, followed up with some humility, would have served him – and the world he thinks he’s here to inspire as a ‘vessel of love’ – far better.
(T+110)
I appreciate your thoughtful and discerning response to yet another display of so-called “justifiable” egregious behavior. Violence is never an act of love.
Thanks, Francine. This was yet another instance of me watching something and being unable to just ignore it and go to bed. I was compelled to at least take a shot at expressing my thoughts.
What a tragic missed opportunity to both educate and show grace.
Lisa,
Yet again you put to words my feelings precisely!!!!! Many people still truely believe this to be a hoax that got out of hand. When we saw on the news what happened, (we didn’t watch the Oscars), Jim and I both commented on Will Smith laughing at the joke, then walking up on stage, it did appear to me that Will was smiling and so was Chris Rock, but when they paused on the moment after, Will Smith turning to walk away (with a smile still on his face) it appeared that Chris Rock was smiling as well. Followed by Will Smith yelling expletives. Will Smith was not angered until, it seems, his wife rolled her eyes or was it a hoax gone wild?? We did see that he received a standing ovation for best actor and I was appalled! I too saw the big tears , the apology to everyone but Chris Rock and the statement of “Love made me do it” those are classic signs of abuser or abusee. The only best actor award for him is he beat someone and got away with it. She has been very public about her alopecia, her affairs with her sons friends, their “open-marriage” all on twitter and instagram, Chris Rock is a commedian and she put it out there, (I did not find his joke to be mean, but I did find Will Smith to be mean! Thanks for your post!
Corinne
Thanks, Corinne. I didn’t know any of their ‘stuff’ (an affair with their son’s friend?)(wow, that must’ve caused, ummm, consternation?), including that she has alopecia. Weird stuff all the way around. All in all, I was astonished at how professionally Chris Rock handled the whole thing.
Loved Belfast, could not understand Licorice Pizza or Power of the dog. Watching CODA soon. Also loved GI Jane!
I’m glad Coda beat The Power of the Dog, if only because of how each of them left me feeling after watching them.
I’ll be interested in what , if anything, is done with W.S.’s actions. I think he should be fined 5million each and have to pay one to the Alopecia foundation and one to Chris Rock’s favorite charity.
I agree, it’ll be interesting to see what happens (if anything). I *am* heartened by the fact that the whole absurd fracas seems to have been shunted off headline news, at least for the most part. I mean – good grief. There are SO MANY more important issues facing us (and the world).
Contrary to what some are suggesting, I don’t believe he should forfeit his Oscar. He won that fair and square. Besides – his actions will carry consequences (at the box office and elsewhere) that will probably always follow him now. I have a feeling he lost the respect of a lot more people than he ever imagined he would.
Your suggestion is an interesting one. Make him put his money where his slap was…